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The Refining Process Towards a Prayerful Morning Routine
An ashram is nothing more than a house where we try to live in accordance with principles to sustain inner growth, inner evolution. Shri Rajagopalachari, (Salient Features 5, p. 20)
For years and years, I have secretly thought of our home as an ashram (a spiritual place of refuge from the modern material world). Perhaps more precisely, I think of it as a gurukulam (a spiritual place of learning and teaching) by day and an ashram by night. I find that thinking of my environment this way naturally orders my activities and conditions my behavior towards inner growth. My acting on this attitude benefits not only me but especially benefits my husband and children as a mother’s actions and attitudes pervade her home like a fragrance.
For a very long time, we have prayed as a family and then mulled over our prayer twice a day, morning and evening. With such young children involved, we have found that the timing of our meditative time together and the routines established for before and after our meditative time together can make or break the effectiveness of what we are trying to do. Also by establishing useful routines and timings, we are training our children towards a lifetime habit so care is required on our part.
Working out the details of our meditative time in the evening has been fairly straightforward (although you might be surprised with how orchestrated it all must be in order to have any chance of the children carrying their quieted conditions all the way upstairs to their beds!). However, I have puzzled and puzzled over finding the best place in the morning routine for family prayer. Should we do it right off the bat before we do anything else? No… it feels too on the fly with children in night clothes and hungry and the cows lowing to be milked. Should we do it after milking the cows but before breakfast? No… everyone is really hungry by then and we are kind of in the middle of flurried activity. It would be hard to fully turn our attention to prayer at that time. Should we gather in the living room after eating breakfast but before washing up from breakfast? After washing up from breakfast? We have to keep in mind that it is getting kind of “late†now compared to what we adults might otherwise think of as the meditating and praying times of the morning. Plus if it gets too late and outside of established routines for each person then everyone gets caught up in mundane daily activities, the children have to be pulled from play and so on in order to settle down and in. On the other hand, it feels right to sit together and think of Him in a place that is picked up and with everyone personally prepared. But, of course, we are supposed to be starting the day with meditative time not having it with brunch!
These might seem like small details of little import. However I can say from long experience that these seemingly small details reverberate throughout the day. The delicate dance of daily family/ ashram/gurukulam life performed to the music of high aspirations requires well thought out choreography in order to create beauty and future value. What is at stake also is training the children into good habits and living by the maxims. For instance, Maxim 1 tells us to be regular in our morning routine, have a special place for meditation/prayer and to pay particular attention to purity of mind and body. There is much here in just this one maxim to help direct family life, including the training of children and the establishing of routines.
A few days ago, I finally got around to assigning “zones†to each of the children to facilitate whole house clean up. I remind them that the more they do around the house that they are capable of doing, the more time I have to do for them that which they actually cannot do for themselves. This time after reminding them of this, I gave them each a zone of the house to be responsible for. We decided that zone assignments will rotate monthly so that eventually all of them will know how to maintain a house. I typed up their assignments so that we could all remember. Now, at what time of day should these zone clean-ups take place? Just before lessons in the morning? Just before dinner?
This morning another piece of the puzzle suddenly popped into my mind. From out of the blue right after breakfast, I remembered Lalaji’s Daily Routine for Satsanghis so I went directly and looked it up. Granted He wrote for a different time and place but still I figured his advice was more than worth consulting. In what order did He suggest the morning activities should go?
He advises the following: everyone gets up before sunrise; everyone cleans the house including sweeping and making beds, dusting and so forth; everyone then washes themselves up as needed; incense is burned in the specific place for meditation, clean mats are spread and clean clothes worn; worship or meditation is done together by family members; everyone exercises for 15 minutes and then a simple breakfast is eaten.
I think this is great. It exactly speaks to my current question so I share it with my husband who also agrees to make use of this list of suggestions. We have to tweak it some as we are in no way going to get the children up before sunrise! Plus we have to work the milking of cows into the schedule and deal with the effect of hunger on children’s ability to sit quietly. But this still, this list provides a great jumping off point.
In a series of posts I will talk about what we in our family call “Sahaj Sunday†but suffice it to say here that there is a special feeling in our home on Fridays and Saturdays because we are all preparing together for Sahaj Sunday. By the same token, following a morning routine grounded in our craving for inner evolution and drawn from the advice of the spiritual Masters, we can have a similar feeling every day as we are preparing ourselves and our home/ashram/gurukulam for morning prayer.
I quickly put the children through their zone clean up assignments during which time our seven year old washed the breakfast dishes. With the house and ourselves in readiness, we gathered in the peacefully clean living room and said the prayer and sat quietly. As we prayed, it started to rain. This felt like a special blessing on the morning. Rain under such circumstances is taken as auspicious anyway but as we are experiencing serious drought here, the rain was truly notable.
A very beautiful feeling or condition filled us and our place and carried us sweetly to the end of the day. I think we finally found our morning routine.
From the beautiful mountains of southwest Virginia,
Leslie


